My sister-in-law, the one I haven’t spoken to in a year, gave birth last night.
TWINS!
WHAT?!!?
They didn’t tell anyone!
It was natural!
They had a boy and a girl!
She had them at 38.5 weeks!
I know I should be happy, but feel somewhat defeated. I’m a bad person, I know.
I just kind of feel like….it took me ivf to get pregnant, I had twins, who were early and had to stay in the NICU…..
And they just happened to get pregnant, had a long and healthy pregnancy and had one of each.
Sore loser I am.
I guess it just pissed me off when my brother-in-law said “She had them at 38.5 weeks, but could have went longer- but the doctors didnt think it was a good idea”- as if he was somewhat implying something about me not being able to hold my girls in (of course, I could totally be making this up in my head)
I guess I feel like they “stole my thunder” because after all I have been through, twins are a blessing (and not common, or so I thought) and when we go to Israel next month, we wont be “the life of the party” or whatever. I am horrid. I feel bad for feeling this way.
K J and the kids said
I totally get where you are coming from. Your girls will get THE warmest welcome and be the hit of the party because you live here and everyone will be so excited to see them.
I think that carrying twins to term is uncommon, so when it does happen people are just ready to to talk about it. I don’t think they were trying to take your thunder but make some of their own.
Kirsten said
Let me try to make you feel better…I would SOOOO feel the same way, if not worse. Actually, my SIL & BIL had a boy when they weren’t married yet and then decided 10 years later to try again…worked right away. They wanted the sex to be a surprise and, of course, they got their perfect baby girl. She was born right after we found out we were facing IF so it was very hard for me to swallow. We were there when their baby girl was born and I had to turn my back to the nursery window because I was crying…they thought out of joy but, not so much.
We’re only human…
Dr. Grumbles said
No fair! They didn’t earn those twins!
I bet yours are cuter.
Chas said
I’m sorry they stole your thunder. By the time you guys get there everyone will be so over those new babies and so ready to meet your girls!!
Topcat said
This is why you are one of my favourite bloggers … because you tell the truth.
I would so, so be feeling the same way, re. stolen thunder. But like Chas says, everyone will be so over their babies by the time you get there … especially considering your beautiful babes can DO stuff, and interact, and smile. Yours are just better HA.
Well, well done on your March of Dimes walk, in the rain and everything!!
That picture below of Soleil giving you the finger … she looks like the Mastermind of the Entire Universe!!! Too hilarious!
xoxoxo
The Dunn Family said
Don’t feel bad. I would feel the same exact way. I DID feel the same way when like 8! of my friends ended up being pregnant and due the month after me. And I was the only one with twins. And I was the first one due. But still, I was so annoyed at all these “naturally conceived” babies that I felt like were stealing my thunder. I FINALLY got pregnant, and I had to SHARE it. I think it’s normal to feel the way you feel. And what’s a blog for, if not to bitch about others??
Jodi said
I don’t blame you, not one bit. I would and have felt totally the same way. I get that way with people who have had their second since I started trying. So frustrating. Don’t feel bad at all…you have every right to feel that way.
And I agree with the other people. They will be so tired of the other babies and so excited to see yours. Especially because hers will still be boring newborns, and yours babies are fun and interactive!!!
Mony said
It’s hard to believe any twins are conceived naturally! But, of course they are. I’ve got 2 sets in my family.
Kerry Lynn said
You are not horrid at all!! I would feel the exact same way! Even now when I hear of someone getting pregnant with twins I totally have this weird nagging feeling. Almost like MY pregnancy was unique not anyone else’s. *I* want to be the only special one that experienced this different sort of pregnancy. OK, it does sound horrid, but at least now we know we’re not the only ones that feel that way
Rachel Inbar said
Not nice not to have told you! She should have taken advantage of the opportunity to get closer to you.
My brother & SIL also had twins naturally, but the day they found out (at 16 weeks!), my SIL said, “I have to tell Rachel” so they told me first. Only family knew before the birth. They’ve since had another set of twins, born the week of my d&c – but my SIL is such a good and caring person that I felt only happy for them…
es said
I felt the same way when my very close friend had twins right after I found out that I was pregnant with twins.
And I totally hear you for feeling bad when your BIL said that comment about 38 1/2 weeks. I’m sure he didn’t mean it that way, but obviously it’s a sensitive topic for you so you’re entitled to be annoyed at him.