Comments on: Advice?

By: The Dunn Family

The Dunn Family — Fri, 21 Sep 2007 13:13:00 +0000

I noticed you in NY, and I'm in NJ and that was about the same price we were quoted if we had had any embies to freeze. Ours may have even been a tad bit more a year.

I wish I could give you advice. We didn't have any to freeze. I can't imagine being in your situation as I've thought about it more than once what WOULD I have done if we had any frozen. We only wanted two, maybe three if the first two were the same sex. But since our twins were B/G we pretty much decide we are done.

I think if I had to make the choice, I would have donated my embies to research. I have a hard time with embryo donation FOR ME. Again, this is just my take. I just would have a hard time with me and DH's biological child being out there. And I feel like if I was just going to destroy it, I might as well donate it to research so that maybe advances in fertility treatment could be made.

All that being said, its such a hard and personal decision. I would research finding a cheaper place to store them for now. I think you should give yourselves more time to make this decision. Because who knows how you will feel a few years from now. Good luck.

By: nailgirl

nailgirl — Fri, 21 Sep 2007 02:59:00 +0000

Oh gosh I say pay to keep them frozen. I also was wondering why you dont have a blog roll?

By: topcat

topcat — Fri, 21 Sep 2007 00:27:00 +0000

I agree with Chas – about trying to get them transferred somewhere cheaper. It’s a hard decision, isn’t it! I have eight tiny embies on ice – so weird, that a piece of me and my hubby are sitting in a freezer somewhere. Might sound a bit harsh – but they are my “insurance policy” at the moment, if something were to go wrong. I like to think I would keep them frozen for another few years … I know that Mr TC is DONE after this. I have wondered about donating them to research for stem cells … don’t know about embryo adoption, but I’ve thought about it. So many choices!

By: Kirsten

Kirsten — Thu, 20 Sep 2007 22:32:00 +0000

I have to break this down a bit!
1. I absolutely CANNOT believe the nerve of that person who is suing over having twins. It takes all kinds in this crazy world of ours but that is just unbelievable. Karma is a bitch, especially in her case, I hope.
2. Holy crap you have great insurance.
3.It’s funny you wrote this post because I have been awaiting my “storage” statement; it should be here any day and I have NO idea what they will charge me. I did get a bill for our cryopreserved sperm ($150) which I totally forgot we even had. I will be calling them to tell them to destroy that since we’ve got our 5 embryos. I’m planning to continue to store our embryos for another couple of years because I highly doubt we would wait longer than that to have another baby…if we have another baby (I am a-okay with the 2 we’ve got!). I’m really surprised they charge so much but I could be surprised when I get my bill, too. However, for me, that fee would be soooo much less than what I’d have to pay to start over again since my insurance doesn’t cover crap. I guess I’d agree with Furrow and at least keep them until you have the girls and see what your thoughts are on having more children. Of course, I know those thoughts can always change though…geez, I am not helping much. Let me know what you decide!!

By: Furrow

Furrow — Thu, 20 Sep 2007 19:08:00 +0000

That is an extremely tough choice. I think I would hold onto them at least until the girls are born, although I'm sure nothing bad will happen if you don't. I think I might just be superstitious that way.

Since I didn't go through IVF, I can't say how I would feel about saving, donating, or destroying embryos. I have a sense that you have to be there, in that position, to truly know.

By: Stacie

Stacie — Thu, 20 Sep 2007 19:06:00 +0000

You would think that insurance companies would pay to freeze the embies because it is so much cheaper to use them than do a whole fresh cycle. Interesting that they don't. Here, I had to payy for all of mine out of pocket so I was keeping my ice baby for as long as possible.

This is such a hard and very personal decision. Tough. Sorry I can't be more helpful. One thing to consider is that these are your young 26 year old embies you have on ice. In five years, your embies will be 31. Will it matter? I hope it won't, but that fear is ingrained in me. It does seem like your freezing price is expensive, though!

By: Chas

Chas — Thu, 20 Sep 2007 17:31:00 +0000

That is such a personal choice,I feel weird even giving advice. I’ll just tell you what I would personally do. If my storage fee was that great…and that is a really terribly expensive fee (my fee is $360 per year!), I would try to find somewhere else to store them. You can have them transferred somewhere else. I personally would never have them destroyed, but that’s only b/c I have a moral objection to it. Had my first FET worked, I would still have had another, despite the fact that J really only wants 2 kids, b/c I could never just “destroy” them. BUT, that’s just me, and you need to do what’s right for you.

BTW, where do I find your kind of insurance???? I am seriously asking that…let me know.