Its strange to think that next week I will be 3 months pregnant.
How did this happen?
It’s funny how when I talk to people that don’t know that I had IVF done, and I have to act like the pregnancy was unplanned I say “I don’t know how this happened”. They usually answer “well, you know how it happened.”
If they only knew.
Imagine I answer “Sure, I know how it happened…first I had to take birth control for a month, then I started morning injections, had to get tested daily at the clinic, then the night injections started. All the while I was taking baby aspirin, anti- biotics (that made me throw up quite often) and finally a huge shot in the ass that made my ovary blow up. Once that was done I had to go under, have my eggs extracted while my husband gave his deposit, returned 5 days later to have my little blysotists inserted. Last but not least let us not forget the dreaded two week wait the “Am I or am I not”? Running to the drug store 5 days prior to the results to buy 5 poas and testing daily- ALL THE WHILE ASKING MYSELF IF THE FAINT SECOND LINE WAS A RESIDUAL OF THE TRIGGER SHOT AND WAITING IN HORROR FOR THE BLOOD RESULTS.. …
Yup, I don’t know how it happened.
Today I tried to put on a stretchy skirt that I own. I bought it two summers ago and it fit great back in 2005. Needless to say the stretchy waist barley made it up my thighs! I feel like a house. But its all worth it and I am not complaining!
I spoke to an aunt of mine today (mom’s younger sister). She is 37 years old, and she is more like an older sister than an aunt. She even looks younger than me. No joke.
I have been calling my grandparent’s house very morning before work to make sure everyone knows that I am with them although I am 6000 miles away.
Said aunt answered and we began to talk.
Turns out, every one of my aunts and uncles knows that I am pregnant ( 7 aunts, 7 uncles)-
Quite the secret. She didn’t discuss it with me until I brought it up. Everyone knows not to talk about it. So I let the “cat out of the bag” and told her. Of course she knew. What no one knows is that I am having twins. She said that she might surprise me and bring her 2 year old daughter with her when I give birth (G-D willing)
Of course it would make them all happy- and maybe they need to know this now. To know that although we have death, we also have life. I still don’t think its an appropriate time.
I knew it was going to come out. When I made the choice to tell my grandmother that I was pregnant, I knew that it would make her happy, but that it would get out. This pregnancy made her so happy and she would take an aunt aside and say “Shh.. don’t tell anyone, Maya is pregnant”. Then she would go to the next aunt and do the same. The risk was worth it. She knew and it gave her some happiness at the end of her beautiful life.
I am from a people that refuse to discuss pregnancy until 3 months in, when your chances of miscarrying are lower. We even do not believe in purchasing any items for the baby before it is born (has to do with the evil eye- I am middle eastern after all). It’s funny that although my grandmother specifically said “Don’t tell anyone”- she went and told her daughters. I guess they weren’t just “anyone”.
So I just heard that a cousin of mine is pregnant as well. She is a year younger than I and got married a year ago. More people to steal my thunder! Her pregnancy on the other hand, was not planned. The “oops, it just happened” people. I dont know how that works. Of course unless she pops out two or more, she cannot steal my thunder.
I saw her in January and she said that she wasn’t planning on having kids until she finishes her BA (she has some time left) and until she got a good job. UH-HUH.
Man plans, G-D laughs.
Although she is only 2 months along, her mother (my grandmother’s sister) blurted it out. She said she doesn’t care to announce it since she is excited about being a grandmother. I m just shocked that it didn’t tempt my own mother to open her mouth. She knows the wrath of my anger will come down on her like hell. She’s scared. 
Anyway, I ramble…
Chas said
I waited until I was over 3 months to tell anyone other than our parents, and it was the hardest thing to do!!!
K J and the kids said
That’s a great story.
I know it’s not the same thing, but I imagined My Big Fat Greek Wedding as you were telling it
Gemini Girl said
yeah it really is that way! Now you know why I feel so isolated when Im in the US.